Friday, November 30, 2012

The very, very worst kind of separation

Earlier this week, I received an email from Arleen, a mother who's hurting deeply. I cannot even begin to imagine her heartache. I asked if I could share her letter, and said yes....

"Please pray for me, I'm deeply depressed due to death of my youngest child, Ashley," Arleen wrote. "Ashley was 21 years old and in her second year in college. A wonderful, beautiful child, inside and out. She died of a sudden heart attack on June 24, 2012. The last time saw her beautiful eyes was the evening before, June 23rd (she did not pass at home). After that, I never saw her again."

"My heart is so broken. I have two other children and a wonderful husband and an extremely smart, wonderful, delightful three-year-old grandson. I know I have a lot to be grateful for, but I miss my Ashley so very much. I know most of you are hurting because of relationship problems with your children or because they are missing. Not knowing where they are or if they're okay, I can imagine how hurtful that is, but just be thankful that they are still alive. Because once they die, it's forever. Pray that they come back to you because I know my Ashley will never come back. A mother's pain of losing one of their children has to be one of the greatest pains, a pain that I would not want to wish on anyone in the world."

Words of comfort seem so inadequate when someone's lost a loved one. If I could, I'd hug you tight and just be there, I emailed Arleen. She and I have never met in person, but that doesn't matter. Like you, she's found this blog because she's in deep pain and needs to reach out and share her hurt with others who understand in any kind of way. 

Yes, Arleen, we will hold your hand and pray for you and your family. May God bless you and strengthen you and surround you with ministering angels. You are very loved!


  1. Dear Arleen,
    Your Ashley is alive! She wants to connect with you. Nothing has changed except that you can't see her with your physical eyes. My grandpa who offered his life in WWII has been with me all my life. He has given messages to me through spiritualist who did not know me. I have heard his guidance directly in my heart, felt his love, support and pride all my life.
    Pls read books about life on the other side. Departing from this world is just the beginning.. and you will be with her for eternity. God is great! He planned it this way! Love is for ever..

  2. I'm sorry for the loss is Ashley. Too young to die. So much life left to live. I also mourn the loss of my daughter Melissa. 28 yrs. Old She died a tragic death. She was given bath salts MDPV. She run terrified into the woods and found 6 days later in a cornfield just he's. Before being found. I couldn't save her. It's been 2 yrs. Now and I still am consumed with grief and regret.

  3. God bless you, dear friend. Thank you for sharing. I'm lifting you up in prayer as I write. I cannot imagine the deep pain you're bearing. I hope and pray that you have supportive family and friends. You need to talk and share. May God surround you with many ministering angels. Your story can help others...please keep sharing. With love, sheryl