Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Ginny shares her story....

This morning, I received a long, heartfelt e-mail from a hurting yet strong-in-Christ mother who's estranged from her two sons. With her permission, I'm sharing her letter in hopes that her testimony and prayer request will help someone who else finds this blog...

"My story is so much like yours except I have two teenaged boys. I’m sure my story is on the same lines as the majority of others in this situation. It was not my desire for them to live with their father; their father made it known that his children would not live in an apartment since he wanted the house. He threatened to take me to court over them, but I could not put them in the position of having to choose between two parents they love. Regardless of their ages (14 and 15), they would either have to verbally or write down who they wanted to live with in front of a judge so I left. 

As you were active in your son's life, I, too, was active in both my children’s activities. My children will speak to me but only when they want me to buy them something. Or if I ask a question, I get a one word answer or a shoulder shrug. The oldest is the most voice-full and disrespectful; the younger is distant and silent. I’ve kept a journal of incidents between us, and I think how could we have gone from that to this? Their father has not encouraged them in anyway to spend time with me, and, of course, as in most divorces, talks negatively about the one who left. The negative talk doesn’t hurt anyone except the children, regardless of their age. 

I have no clue when it comes to their school grades except from the school’s website. Not a clue about their football or baseball games or anything except what I find out on my own or through friends. There was one case when my youngest was playing basketball for a different church. It just so happened that one of my coworkers was talking about how he enjoyed watching my son and his athletic abilities. I had to act like I knew all about it; come to find out, I had missed over five games. So I got a schedule from the church he was playing with and went to the rest of his ballgames. However, his father would sit outside in his truck because I was there. Because of this, my son asked me not to attend any of his baseball games. Of course, I could go on and on with incidents like these.
 
However, I have learned that this storm in my life is a blessing in its own way. It has taken my children’s actions to bring me to my knees before the Lord. The Lord did give me a verse as a confirmation, Psalms 1:3.* So I’m asking for a prayer chain for children of all ages, not just mine, for healing hearts, reconciliation, to put positive influential Christians in their paths and for parents in our situation, to be praying warriors for our children. If two or more are in prayer before the Lord, imagine hundreds or thousands!"



*And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.



10 comments:

  1. Ginny and Sheryl - reading this I felt as if my own life is being shared. I too lost my daughters when I left their father ( January 2009 and they were 16, 19 and 21). I too was an active part of their lives till I left their father ... I survived through the sheer grace of God - I was suicidal and at my lowest ebb ever. I know this crisis has brought me closer to God and keeps me on my knees constantly. I join you in praying for healing hearts and forgiveness for both fathers, mothers and children and positive Christian guidance in each individuals life.

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  2. Have you reunited with your daughters, Evie? Please let us know if you'd like us to put your on our Prayer List. God bless you and continue to strengthen you, sister. You are not alone!

    With lots of love and prayers, too, sheryl

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  3. How difficult this is when a family has been broken. I've been there., YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
    I pray with you and ask that you add my boys
    and myself to this prayer group.

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  4. Yes, Angie, we will pray for you. And I will add your name to our Prayer List and my private prayer book as well. God bless and strengthen you. With love, sheryl

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  5. I'm a widow and haven't ever gotten divorced, but I know the pain of losing (to death) a son and husband within 9 months.God bless each of you and stay close to God. He may give you peace as he has given me. Best of wishes to you all.

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  6. You bless YOU, dear friend. My heart goes out to you...you've suffered such deep losses. Thank you for your prayers and for your special visit here.
    With love, sheryl

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  7. Sheryl, I miss your posts. I hope all is well with you!

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  8. Hi, Diane: I'm good. I don't post as often here. But I frequently add prayer requests on the Prayer List. They come via this blog or by e-mail. Patrick is suppose to talk with me soon so I can write about his perspective during our separation. But he's so busy with his new life that I don't know when I'll be able to pin him down. :-)

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  9. Please remember my nieces in pray.she had a red carpet wedding.She sent her them husband to college.When she got pregnant,and they had a beautiful little boy.When he was about 2 years old her husband want her to have another child.3 months into her pregnant she learn he see some else s. she left him.He and the women got married,he took my nieces to court and because he made the most money he was grant couscous of the 2 boys.He & now wife income is $170.00 a year but he make my nieces pay child supported.The children do not want to live with ther dad & his wife but there afraid to tell him.Not wanting to drag them into court.But he still got the court rapped around him,and he demand more money,she can not do so and if she do not come up with it she have go to jail.She a very good mom and a great person.So please pray for her and her children s.Ester Yates.

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  10. Yes, we'll pray for your niece. What a sad situation and not uncommon from what I've heard through other mothers. Please keep us posted. I will add your niece to our prayer list and my prayer book. With love, sheryl

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